what if i'm not sure if i really want to poken with someone?
no worries. that’s why poken have two modes: “normal” and “discrete.” your poken is in normal mode by default. every time you poken by simply touching two poken hands together in a “high-four” greeting you share your poken card. to switch your poken to discreet mode (and avoid awkwardly telling people you don’t want to poken with them), just double-press your poken’s palm. “ghost” is selected by default for your poken’s discreet mode. any pokening you do within the next 30 seconds will only share a ghost card. when the contact you’ve ghosted uploads their poken contacts to their new friends list they will only see a ghost card and they will not know to whom it belongs. you, however, will see their public card, as you normally would, and can at that point decide whether or not to accept them to your list of contacts. if you do accept them, then your public card will replace the ghost card in their new friends list.